Q: I’m in my late 40s and I have hot flashes. Sometimes they’re so severe that my forehead glistens or a drop rolls down my face. This is extremely embarrassing in job interviews and reinforces that I’m an older worker.
My doctor advises against medication other than herbs because of the possibility of cancer. How can I handle the sudden redness on my cheeks and the excess heat?
A: Keep searching for a good remedy. Wear clothes made of natural fibers. Don’t wear anything high on your neck or back.
The next time you have a flash in an interview, ask yourself if it’s possible that the interviewer didn’t spot it. Remember, this is probably the first time he’s met you; so he most likely wouldn’t be aware of small changes in appearance.
However, if your secret’s out, consider the Bill Cosby classic about “a personal summer.” That should be effective this time of year. If you’re uncomfortable mentioning that, tell your own joke with a smile, such as, “Every time I interview, things really heat up.” Your sense of humor might help you land the job.
Q: A co-worker is getting in the way of my job hunting. She’s new on the job, very enthusiastic and filled with energy. She wants to make friends with everyone she meets. Unfortunately, she’s around me all of the time, so much so that I can barely break away at acceptable times to job hunt.
Ironically, yesterday she asked what it would take to get me to look for another organization – an improving economy, a missed promotion or even a bad boss. A bothersome co-worker wasn’t one of the options. She apparently thinks all is well here ... either that or she can sense that something’s up. What can I do to get her to back off?
I could handle another decade here but for professional development I keep listening and searching for opportunities. It keeps me from becoming stale or obsolete.
A: It sounds as if you need to tame that enthusiasm a little more definitely. Sit her down and tell her you’ve been there a long time, that you really enjoy your job. Mention that it’s grown into a welcome challenge, with responsibilities across the company, if that’s correct. Ask for some space.
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