YOUNG VOICES: Choose people, relationships over work

2014-03-17T00:00:00Z YOUNG VOICES: Choose people, relationships over workBy Terah Slawnikowski
March 17, 2014 12:00 am  • 

“Have you noticed that even the busiest people are never too busy to take time to tell you how busy they are?” ― Bob Talbert

We have all seen it: the parent who is a workaholic, the student who joins every possible club, the friend who seems to volunteer for everything that comes his/her way. People today are extremely busy, and we admire those who work hard. After all, being busy is good, right?

Society has certainly framed busyness with importance: the busier you are, the more important you must be and the more you must matter. I know If I am ever without anything to do, I feel as if I am not needed or unwanted, but the reciprocal to that is when people do need me or want to talk to me, I am often too busy to genuinely be there for them.

As a society, we have prioritized busyness over relationships and over people. Here are some points to consider for a moment: When was the last time you and your spouse had a date? When was the last time you took your kids out for the day? How often do you talk to your best friend(s)? When was the last time you called your parents? When was the last time you had a sit-down dinner with your family? How many times have you dodged people you know just so you do not have to "waste time" talking to them?

One thing I have learned is we are not quite as busy as we think if we simply get rid of what is not benefiting anyone. As individuals, we have to choose to have time; busyness is something we have to actively fight against.

What is causing your life to be too busy? Is it work? Hobbies? Or maybe it is just comfortable for you to be busy instead of reaching out to people on an individual basis? Whatever the reason, it is time to decide if all of your “busyness” and the “glorification of busy” is worth the price you are paying.

Being busy all of the time, making deadlines, and having full schedules and to-do lists might seem like a necessity to life, but how will people, even those closest to you, remember you? Will they be able to stand back and say how involved you were in their lives? Will they know and tell of how much you truly cared? Or will they stand back and say you lived a very busy lifestyle and worked hard?

It is time to actively choose people and relationships over work and stop the glorification of busy.

Terah Slawnikowski, of Wheatfield, is a senior at Purdue University in West Lafayette. The opinions are the writer's.

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