YOUNG VOICES: Do what makes you happy

2014-03-24T00:00:00Z YOUNG VOICES: Do what makes you happyBy Jaylen Johnson
March 24, 2014 12:00 am  • 

There are many different kinds of people in the world today. There are people who like to give and people who like to take. Oftentimes, people sacrifice doing things for themselves to make others happy. The givers that are willing to put a smile on others’ face before they put one on theirs. That is what they live for. They want to make others happy, and that makes them feel good about themselves.

Sometimes people are willing to take a pay deduction to help people feel good. Often they will always answer their phones whenever someone calls or just simply take care of someone who is sick.

It’s been said that when you enjoy working it’s not really a job. These people are happy and look forward to clocking in and don’t want to clock out sometimes.

A lot of people are OK with that, but sometimes people look to take advantage of these overly nice givers. It’s really unfortunate when good people get taken advantage of. Their purpose in life is to help and make others happy, but some rude people see that as a reason to take from them.

Often these nice people have a problem with saying no or just don’t say no at all. The people that ask them to do these favors are aware that they have trouble saying no or won’t say no and expect to get whatever they asked for.

Sometimes it’s OK to be selfish as you need to be happy too, and that’s the most important thing. It is necessary sometimes.

There are many times when you need to put yourself first. Even though you don’t want to miss a day, take a day off when you’re sick. Enjoy a day to yourself and go do whatever it is that you like to do. During your vacation you should go on a trip and not think of the others you help. Give your mind a break. Your work will be there when you get back from relaxing.

There are other things you could do to make yourself happier, such as having less hours or possibly being in control of your schedule.

Sometimes these nice people who go the extra mile are stressed out knowing people are always expecting things from them and relying on them. That is a lot of pressure knowing that you have to produce for these people no matter what it is.

Most of the time others don’t even ask about you or see is there anything you need. They aren’t considerate of others like you and just want things for themselves. They don’t look to see how others are doing and if they need anything.

Don’t let others take advantage of you. From now on put yourself first and take care of yourself first. It is most important that you are OK. Even though they are important, others should come second.

Jaylen Johnson, of Merrillville, is a freshman at Indiana University in Bloomington. The opinions are the writer's.

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