YOUNG VOICES: Parents, we aren't leaving you forever

2013-08-26T00:00:00Z YOUNG VOICES: Parents, we aren't leaving you foreverBy Alex Miskus
August 26, 2013 12:00 am  • 

Packing for college is frustrating, scary and exciting all the same time. The impossible part occurs when I have to pack my life into four storage bins and I have to limit the number of shoes I can bring.

The frustrating times will be as I roam around a foreign campus realizing I am once again at the bottom of the food chain. Maybe this time around the upperclassmen will actually like the freshmen.

The scary part is saying goodbye to loved ones. It’s frightening to be on your own without mommy and daddy to hold your hand. The responsibility hangs in your balance as your future lays in the palms of your hands.

But then again, all of it is exciting. College is starting a new chapter with unfamiliar people along with a wide variety of opportunities and experiences. You can now build your image and life based on your own terms.

The closer the start of college comes, the more parents become emotional. Whether their child is leaving for college or not, their baby is grown up. I am sure as teenagers, we do not understand why our mothers randomly start bawling the moment college is brought up, but I am sure it is for all the right reasons.

Parents love the idea of holding on to us forever, shielding us from the horrors of life. But eventually, they will have to let go.

That is exactly my point; parents have to let go. They have to trust we are making the right decisions no matter the distance. Every child wants to make their parents proud, but no matter what, we all experience mistakes that shape us.

Letting us go is the only way we can learn from our mistakes, suffer the consequences,and be treated like adults. Even though our parents wish we were screaming toddlers once again, they have to face reality that we are all grown up.

Leaving for college is the chance to experience the freedom we have always craved. We are not excited to leave our family and friends, but we are ecstatic to see what adventure is in store for us.

We will forever need our parents whether we will live with them or not. Parental guidance is still necessary to help guide their college student toward success. Besides, who else will I call asking how wash laundry?

Parents, please do not assume we will go crazy the moment you drop us off at college. Chances are, we do not want to end up in jail as much as you do. We are not saying goodbye to you; we are only saying “I’ll see you later.”

Alex Miskus, of Dyer, is a freshman at Indiana University. The opinions are the writer's.

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