Here I sit, a 24-year-old husband and father of a 15-month-old son (with another on the way as well, thank you very much). I have a mortgage, a car loan, and probably too many credit cards. I work 40-plus hours a week, plus attend school full time, plus my plethora of hobbies and commitments with politics. I can be drafted, I can be called on for jury duty, and I'm expected to pay my taxes.

Yet I'm deemed so stupid and apparently childish that I can't make my own decision as to whether or not I wear a seat belt. I can only buy so many cans of beer at a time, and certainly not on a Sunday. In some cities, I'm not even allowed to salt my food! And God forbid a want a few tasty trans fats on my burger.

What's happened?

I remember thinking when I was in high school about all the freedom I'd have when I became an adult, how I wouldn't feel like I was being treated like a child anymore. I don't want to go as far as calling this a "big brother" society just yet; there are quite a few other liberties that would need to be eroded before I'll be willing start espousing such quips. However, with the direction that we've been moving as a country, I wouldn't be surprised if such a horror could become a reality.

"Adult kids" are becoming more of a norm than the exceptions to the rule. It's one thing to live with mommy and daddy while attending school, or saving up some money, or because an individual is just dealt a few bad hands in life and needs some recoup time. It's another when no too little effort is put forth to become a productive member of society.

While this is ultimately a job of the parents to give the "adult kid" a good swift kick in the behind for some motivation, and granted not enough parents are willing to do this and so the fault falls on them in a major way, the laws that we've been passing are not helping out at all.

Take this latest health care reform bill, for instance. All other parts aside, agreements and disagreements and politically charged debate aside, the worst thing we could do is to extend the age to 26 for "adult kids" to stay on the insurance of their parents.

Now, a college student? I could understand that. But there are no such stipulations. Should I, as a husband and father and adult, be able to piggy back on "daddy's" insurance? Absolutely not! At age 26, one is supposed to have some kind of direction, some goals of one sort or the other. They aren't supposed to be given even more incentive to leech off of their parents.

But these are only a few of the instances where we, as society, are treated like children, and they are only the symptoms of the greater problem -- that so many in government truly believe we should all be taken care of, with no regard to the examples being set and incentives that make people in society shrug their shoulders and let their proverbial diapers be changed.

I can clean up after and take care of myself quite well, thank you very much, Mr. and or Mrs. Politician. I already have somebody to tell me what to do: she's called my wife.

Travis Gearhart of Hebron is a sophomore at Ashford University, an online school. The opinion expressed in this column is the writer's and not necessarily that of The Times.