“I am an over-educated, opinionated, tenderhearted mother of two who has a potty mouth and a bleeding heart,” writes Nicole Knepper as an introduction to her blog, chicagonow.com/moms-who-drink-and-swear.
“Oh, and a book coming out in April 2013.”
But despite the tile of her blog and book, "Moms Who Drink and Swear: True Tales of Loving My Kids While Losing My Mind" (New American Library 2013; $15), Knepper doesn’t advocate passing out at the dinner table after too much vodka while her children watch inappropriate cable shows. Instead, Knepper, a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the fields of substance abuse, trauma, dual diagnosis and autism spectrum disorders and the mom to two special needs kids, uses her dark sense of humor in Facebook posts and emails to friends as a way to navigate the turbulent waters of parenthood.
What at first started off as emails to friends, exploded into Facebook and blog posts. Now Knepper, who lives in Chicago, has almost 200,000 Facebook members from more than 20 countries around the world.
“That's a lot of humans,” she says, noting that she still is overwhelmed to find her writings so popular and herself on TV shows.
But that doesn’t mean Knepper, who acknowledges wanting to smash the toys her kids are incessantly fighting over, doesn’t get a few negative responses to her blog indicating that these readers don’t understand she’s only being mordantly funny when she writes “If you feel like your kids are killing you, you've come to the right place.”
“I really think it’s much healthier to share our anger and grief about raising children,” says Knepper. “If we can turn it into humor it’s much better than what some in the previous generation of mothers which was hiding their Valium and their vodka in the linen closet where nobody could find it.”