Crown Point's Peggy Parkinson searched three decades in vain for a sister she never met — an unrequited reminder of sibling lives separated by adoption.
Sherri Lynn, who grew up in Lowell and now lives in Denver, knew adoption had sent her on a different path since birth, but never really questioned who, how or why.
That is until Lynn, on a whim at work in December 2016, learned the details of a new family reality with a few keyboard strokes on her computer.
The story of the sisters Parkinson, 47, and Lynn, 48, is a powerful reminder this National Adoption Month of the bright chance at life that adoption presents in otherwise dark moments.
But their tale also is a touching reminder of the gravitational pull that can exist between siblings across miles and decades, even when one doesn't know of the other's existence.
How it started
Parkinson grew up with a keen, painful awareness of her own adoption story.
A pattern of neglect by her biological mother meant Parkison spent most of her childhood in the care of her maternal grandparents, eventually being adopted by them at the age of 14.
That pattern included a time when her mother left Parkinson, then 5, and a younger sister behind during a trip to Brookfield Zoo, outside of Chicago.
It encompassed abusive relationships and countless other heartaches Parkinson doesn't care to relive.
Despite that heartache, Parkinson said she was raised in her grandparents' — eventual adoptive parents' — loving home in Schererville, graduating from Lake Central High School.
Lynn, born a year before Parkinson to the same biological mother and father, was spared that heartache by her own adoption story.
At birth, Lynn was dropped off at a house in Griffith, into the arms of an adoption arranged by the doctor who delivered her.
Lynn would be raised in Lowell, also by loving parents, before moving from Northwest Indiana to Colorado at age 9.
Growing up, Parkinson had heard of the older sister she never knew, who'd been dropped off with an adoptive family in Griffith.
In Lowell and then Colorado, Lynn said, she always knew she'd been adopted, as well.
But she knew little about her biological parents and nothing of Parkinson.
Parkinson's search to find her older sister began more than 30 years ago when she was in her early teens.
It can be a particularly insatiable thirst among those who know of, but have never met, biological parents or siblings.
For Parkinson, a quest to quench that thirst led to years going through genealogical records, making trips to Griffith homes believed to have been the drop-off point for her older sister and several other dead-ends.
"This was always a big hole for me," Parkinson told me during a recent visit at her Hammond office, where she works for the South Shore Convention and Visitors Authority.
"I always wanted to know but could never quite find her."
As it turns out, Lynn, who spent most of her life searching for no one, would do the finding.
Scratching an itch
It was Dec. 15, 2016.
Lynn entered her Denver office building in the morning, generally content with her life but feeling a certain familial itch that needed scratching.
For some time, Lynn had been wanting to learn more about her biological mother. Mostly, she wanted to track down a photo.
"I really always knew I was adopted but had no curiosity growing up," Lynn said. "I never really asked questions."
But on this day, Lynn would sign into Ancestry.com, an online site of largely genealogical records that has helped countless people unlock the mysteries of their lineage.
Her biological mother's name had been communicated to her later in life. Running it through Ancestry revealed a Northwest Indiana obituary for her birth mom, complete with a name of surviving relatives.
Among those names was a woman listed as an aunt: Peggy Parkinson.
Lynn said she began searching that name on Facebook and was stunned to find a woman bearing that name, whose features looked a lot like herself.
Lynn then scratched her own curious itch, sending Parkinson a note via Facebook Messenger.
11 siblings by noon
As Lynn fired off her Facebook message from Colorado, Parkinson was sitting down to lunch in her Hammond office.
"It came up as an IM message and a Facebook request," Parkinson said. "I saw the picture of the person sending it, and the hair stood up on the back of my neck.
"At that point, I just knew."
The Facebook messaging led to phone calls between the two, and ultimately Parkinson explained to Lynn that she actually was her sister, not her aunt as the obituary stated.
Parkinson's adoption by both women's maternal grandparents led to the confusion.
"We chatted for a bit, and I was freaking out," Parkinson said. "My sister, who I'd been searching for over three decades, had found me."
If Parkinson was shocked, Lynn was overwhelmed.
"I was bored at work, and all I really was looking for was a photo of my birth mother," Lynn said.
That boredom led to a return message from Parkinson that read:
"If you were born in 1969, you are who I've been looking for my entire life," Lynn recalled of the message.
"My heart just literally jumped out of my chest."
Parkinson had known about Lynn's existence her entire life. But Lynn learned in subsequent communication that she had a host of siblings of whom she previously had no knowledge.
"I woke up that day an only child," Lynn said. "By lunch, I had 11 siblings."
Meeting amid tragedy
Following several phone calls, the newfound sisters decided to meet during a fall trip Lynn had planned with her fiance to Las Vegas.
On Oct. 1, Parkinson arrived early at the hotel restaurant that would serve as the arranged meeting place over lunch.
"I told a waitress there what I was doing and who I was meeting," Parkinson said. "She agreed to take video with my cellphone when the meeting occurred."
The video shows emotional greetings, smiles and embraces between the women — but also, perhaps, a hint of uncomfortable newness attached to any new meeting in which parties hope to forge a meaningful relationship.
The two celebrated their first meeting with a cake provided by the hotel, with the words "Happy Reunion!!!" written in chocolate syrup on the perimeter of the plate.
Later that night, the jubilation and gravity of their first in-person meeting would be interrupted by even bigger historical gravity, Parkinson said.
That evening, a gunman opened fire on a concert crowd, killing 58 and injuring more than 500 people, just a few miles away from the hotel where the sisters first met.
Parkinson and Lynn would spend four days together in Vegas, amid the chaotic backdrop of the worst recorded mass shooting in modern U.S. history.
Though those circumstances were sobering, the sisters continue to grow their relationship.
From the four days spent in Vegas, texting and phone calls, the sisters say they're finding many personality traits in common.
"We have our differences, too, of course, but we both appear to be stubborn, opinionated and bullheaded," Parkinson told me recently.
"I've had similar surgeries to Peggy, and we have a lot of the same features," Lynn said. "After 48 years, I have a sister. It's wonderful, but it's also a lot to process.
"For most of our childhoods, we lived in the same state and area. Now, halfway through our lives, if we're lucky, we have met. It's awesome."
The next in-person meeting is set.
Lynn is scheduled to be married on Labor Day 2018, and Parkinson plans to be there.
Both women said they cherish the respective love they found through their individual adoptions.
Parkinson hopes their story provides hope to others in search of birth parents or siblings that such efforts aren't always in vain.
Now Parkinson and Lynn have the rest of their lives to grow seeds left dormant by life circumstances.